I lied and said I was busy. I was busy; but not in a way most people understand. I was busy taking deeper breaths. I was busy silencing irrational thoughts. I was busy calming a racing heart. I was busy telling myself I am okay. Sometimes, this is my busy, and I will not apologize […]
I read through this post and was immediately moved by its words. Rhapsody coming in with the truth, again!
In the process of learning how to treat myself, I’m learning to teach others how to treat me. Sounds intense, I know. What I mean more specifically is that in all facets of life we as people teach others how we should be treated – if we allow ourselves to be abused, pushed around or disrespected the circle will continue. We are making it seem as though it were acceptable by remaining passive. And if you’re like me, fellow Empaths, you do this to keep the peace. It feels easier to sacrifice our personal comfort for others comfort.
And this isn’t to say that we should come on heavy handed, or too gentle so as not to be heard properly. Use your best judgement! Sometimes it’s as “simple” letting someone know that their words or actions are hurtful to you. And again, I know that these are not always simple interactions, but they’re small changes with a large impact. And they’re changes that can be implemented immediately. And in these actions we are teaching others how we are to be treated.
But what’s the real point here, Brennan? Whatcha’ gettin at?
Great question! When I read these words I realized they had given me yet another tool in my “teaching arsenal”. They so simply spoke truth – that “this is my Busy”. And it reminded me that I am allowed that “busy”, and I can also explain to others. No, they may not understand right away. They may not understand at all. And that’s okay! They’re entitled to that. My teaching will remain, though. I’ll have explained. They’ll know at the most base level that it is my truth. And if I maintain this habit of teaching myself, and teaching others about how I should be treated, little by little progress will be made.
It is another, beautiful way I can teach others about who I am. How I am. What I am. And what a gift to have that chance! So, Rhapsody, thank you for this.